"I never said it would be easy. All I'm saying is that you have the option to take control of the situation. If you handle this amicably, no one will see it coming. You'll 'win.'"

Because if viewed competitively, perhaps it'll be more palatable.

"Wouldn't it be worth it for the smug satisfaction, if nothing else? To approach them all, without having to be dragged along, and watch their jaws drop as you defy all expectations."