There are multiple schools of thought on sexuality, from it being a matter of biology versus a matter of upbringing... Then there are those who are not inclined in either direction, and they're perhaps the most invisible.

[Sex and romantic relationships are just so normalized that the absence of either is seen as less valid for one reason or another.]

And rest assured, I don't plan to give you an in-depth play by play. The dissertation I sent to the other Ren in a post-sex haze was embarrassing enough.